You are not okay and that’s okay!
Hey, you! Yes you, I see you. I know that you are at your breaking point. So much has happened to you in these recent days, weeks, month and years. You silently suffer all while you appear to hold it all together. People just don’t know the weight you carry from all that you have been through. You are everyone go to for everything. It’s a fight to keep going everyday but you manage to muster up enough strength to pour into all those around you: friends, family, coworkers. If the only knew that you desperately needed to be poured into. All you know is to be strong and not show the slightest sign of weakness because God forbid people see that you are a flawed human being... I know you because I am you.
I wanted you to know that it is okay to not be okay!!!!! Let me say/ write that again. IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY! There is freedom in releasing the need to always have it together. Let your hair down! Make a mistake! Cry or breakdown if needed. Say no if you need to. Make sure are really okay. Ask yourself: Am I okay? How am I mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. If the answer is no or not good , then that is perfectly fine. The first and most important step to change is recognizing their is and issue!
Honesty and transparency alert! When working for my last employer , I made it a habit to overwork myself. I took pride in being a hard worker. It came with some consequences. My mental health and physical health suffered. I would get asked to do things that I honestly should have declined due to overwhelmed and exhausted. But I kept going and performed well above expectations. This led to more and more being placed on my plate. Looking back , I realized I was out here trying to compete with Gods work ethic and that is just impossible. This is the same mentality that many of us have. Of course, it may not be intentional but it is unconsciously what that behavior displays. It wasn’t until I had reached the end of my rope where life became so heavy, loud and boxed in that I realized that I have limits. My on switch had turned off. I had to take a good look at what I was doing and how it was affecting me. This what my “I’m not okay and it okay” moment.
In recent news, gymnast extraordinaire, Simone Biles shocked millions as she withdrew from the Olympics!! This was her, “I’m not okay and that is okay” moment. I’m sure there was an enormous amount of pressure that came with that decision. She chose to show a side we had never seen before, a side that human and has limits. We can all take a page from her book and do that for ourselves. Sometimes we tend to neglect ourselves to make others happy or to fake being perfect! What are we risking? If you are not okay, that is okay! Just know that God is always waiting to help and guide you on a path of healing!!! He wants to get you back where you need to be.
Here a few scriptures to encourage you:
For with God nothing shall be impossible
For my thoughts are not your thoughts and my ways not your ways